STEP ONE: Have a sense of humor It is a given that submission can be difficult. We often need to juggle our commitments to home, children, jobs, and mostly Dominant (be that Master or Mistress). Because laughter can transform a bad mood into a good one, levity is good for our submissive spirits. Most of us do not laugh enough and laughter can be contagious. As such, our laughter may be just what our Dom/me needs and he/she can appreciate it and our submission. Try it, chances are it will make you a happier submissive. STEP TWO: Love what you do Know what it is about your submission that you truly enjoy and do it. STEP THREE: Guard your health  Remember the healthier we eat, the better we feel. Likewise, staying fit typically keeps us looking better which in turn brings personal satisfaction. Feeling good about yourself is important in satisfying your Dominant. Exercise actually increases our energy level, and at the same time relieves stress. STEP FOUR: Play hard Too many times we get wrapped up in work, and forego submission. We work very hard but often forget to play. Just as we may work hard, we need to play hard, when we can. It is very important to take time out for fun with your Dominant.  STEP FIVE: Treat yourself to the uniqueness of submission In today's fast paced world, few of us remember to to take time out to be the submissive we would like to strive to be. Consider setting aside time to be with your Dominant, to help you temporarily escape some of life's demands other than submission. It is important to re-energize the mind, body , and spirit. This is time set aside not as sceneing. Discuss what makes your relationship unique? STEP SIX: Consider that your glass is half full not half empty In every situation we encounter, we can choose whether or not to hone in on our negatives or positives. The submissive's positive attitude is more likely to take on a positive result than a negative one.  STEP SEVEN: Set realistic goals in being a submissive Many are over achiever, and this one is one that many constantly struggle with. When I prioritize my submissive inventory, things go much better. they see that they cannot accomplish everything and seek to do one task at a time. Your Dominant can be an important part in helping with this too. When you see that you have gotten something accomplished, rather than nothing, you feel much better about yourself, and thus you are a happier submissive. STEP EIGHT: Learn something new about submission everyday Given the wealth of information available on the net, this task is not as far fetched as it may seem. It does not have to be specifically about submission, but can be about learning new massage techniques for the Dominants's body, learning new recipes, for the Dominant, or simply learning how to write better in order to titillate your Dominant. STEP NINE: Listen to you soul  Keep your mind young and healthy too. We are spiritual beings. It is important to find inner peace. In order to find it , we must take more time to listen to our hearts and to seek answers to life's questions. Meditation is an example of a way to accomplish this. STEP TEN: Stay in tune with your surroundings At the onset of a headache or a specific feeling of stress, it is often healthy, even for a minute or two, to change the environment. A step outside, or even a look at it, can rejuvenate us. Nature has its own healing effects. Take time to "smell the roses". STEP ELEVEN: Care enough to seek help When submission becomes difficult or stress becomes unbearable, talk to your Dominant, friends, or professional counselors. Often all it takes to gain a different perspective is to someone to be a sounding board. Other times of course, it may take more time and an actual push to work through the problems regarding the lifestyle or other areas. STEP TWELVE: You are in control  Realistically, we have control of the way we act, think and even feel. Yes, we may have turned out complete control over to a Dominant, however submission is the gifting of that control over to that Dominant. Each and every time the Dominant asks us to do something, the truth is, we make a split-second decision to respond in a submissive way. If your reaction leads to a negative result, re-think your response and see how you might do it differently.