Be suspisious of anyone that claims to be a Dominant and therefore has no need to answer questions. Any reputable Dominat will willing answer questions. In the interest of keeping this simple the Dominant in the questions is a male Dom and the submissive a female. However these questions also apply to a female Dominant and male submissive.

1.How long have you been involved in the D/s lifestyle, and what led you to it in the first place?   2.Do you have or plan to have a more than one slave/submissive, on or offline?   3.What sort of relationship are you looking for? Online only, phone, real world, potential marriage/permanent partner?   4.How much time are you willing to devote to training a new sub, and how much of her time would you require in return. Would you have daily contact with your submissive/slave?   5.Do you indulge in these pleasures with women/men in "real life?" If so, what precautions for health and safety are involved? What type of safety precautions do you feel are necessary for an online or phone relationship?   6.What sort of training/education have you had to be the dominant member of this relationship? Have you had experience training a submissive who is new to D/s? What made you decide this was for you?   7.What are your basic philosophies with regard to D/s.   8.What are your rules, contracts, agreements, etc.? What do you require of your slave and of yourself?   9.What sort of structured training do you prefer to use? What sorts of discipline/punishment for infractions? What kinds of tasks do you assign your save to perform for you?   10.What are your deepest desires, pleasures, hopes for this relationship? What, in your opinion, does the Dom receive in return for his time, love and protective care over his sub?   11.Do you have any references available that I might contact?   12.Please read the following file (The BDSM checklist, also available on this site). I would like to discuss with you what level of submissive you feel you are looking for. Though I realize this is not a hard and fast, I do feel that we can learn more about our potential as a Sub/Dom pair by discussing this.